I ask this question because something happened today that I didn’t expect. I was lounging on the couch watching a movie, when I get a frantic text
I need you to please come to my office. I just found out my godson dies of a seizure n i can’t drive i will crash on purpose
So I hop my ass up and run off to the bedroom, throw on the clothes from yesterday that were laying in a heap next to my bed and make a mad dash to the car. I speed out of the garage almost forgetting to turn on the alarm. I get 3/4 of the way there and she says to me…
don’t come ill be fine stay home ok ima do some work
So by this time I’m like fuk it, I’m already half way there so might as well continue. She’s my fiance, I’m supposed to be there for her like she has been with me. So I swerve around a few corners peeking out the corners for the MPs and rush to her office. I find her with one of her NCOs and just walk up to her and put my arms around her. She says she’s okay, but then I feel the tears soaking my shirt. I pull her in closer and realize I’m at a loss for words. At this point I have no idea what to say to her. I sit down and hold the tissue as I wipe her eyes. She finishes what she is doing and then we head out to lunch. I drive cause she is in no way shape or form able to do so. We head out to one of my fav spots…Roly Poly. They make these awesome cold/hot rolled subs. So she had never been there before, but I knew she would enjoy it. So we sit down and eat. No words really spoken, just the love for each other in our eyes.
We finish and head out to the pawn shop, she needed a few items for work. Afterwards, I thought let’s treat her to something nice…BASKIN ROBBINS. Its summer time and my fav treat is back…”bubble gum” flavor. I’m in heaven, and she is too with her rocky road. I made her smile by making some silly faces, then we headed back to her job. I drop her off and give her a kiss and a hug.
I tell her I’m only a phone call away.
But I’m wondering…how does one deal with the death of someone close to them? How do you comfort those who are dealing with this?
I ask because in Feb, I lost a co-worker…sudden heart attack, no warning, nothing. She left work after my frantic call, got lost on her way to the hospital, I drove (which was probably a very bad idea, but i wasn’t thinking at the time) and almost crashed. I got there eventually and just broke down at the sight of my love in the parking lot waiting on me. Then of course upon seeing my other co-workers in the waiting room, it was all over. But as a future spouse she held me down and said all the right things, me …. today..not so much. I was lost at what to say. I didn’t know how to comfort her.
I feel bad that I didn’t know what to say, but I know that as time drags along, I will. here’s hoping for guidance.
