Okay so a friend warned me that there might be some crazy people on this site…well in the month i’ve been on it looking for new friends…this one is the craziest.
So first off…here is her bio:
SN: Jeez47
Age: Profile says 38, she’s really 43
Resides: Centreville, Virginia
Job: Gov’t…
Education: Bachelor’s
About Me
Don’t like labeling myself but I think it’s best ..
I am a soft Butch who likes looking more on the fem side, infact I am more hard than my appearance … Just don’t like looking like a guy … therefore, I am more attracted to females with Fem personalities … I do like making new friends :), of course, if you’re not my type. Now we’ve met …I am an outgoing type … Always looking to spend time doing things outdoor … walks, hiking , rafting, sightseeing – museums… I also enjoy trying new restaurants, movies or just finding new experiences …
I have a great sense of humor , sometimes sarcastic … I consider myself loyal and respectful to someone’s believe … I am normally very open minded and non judgmental …
Looking for friends with one special … hopefully someone who wants to share her world …
Anyways… my profile states the following:
About They Call Me Blu
Guess I gotta update this to make sure my intent is clear. While it says looking to date…I’m really not interested in dating anyone!!
If and when I am ready to date, I will do so, also let it be known that when I am ready to date, it won’t be a femme. Y’all are cool as peeps but it would never go any further than that.
Now that the tough stuff is out the way…
Hello
i’m a new transplant to the area. recently earned my 2nd bachelors, so i was able to accept my dream job fresh out of school. my hobbies include blogging, reading books, watching movies, enjoying the rich history that dc has to offer. working with my apple products and making them all work together in ways thought impossible. spending time with other veterans. being a role model to some of the younger generation (lord knows they need some) and staying at home with my cat.
my goals are really to become a tad bit more outgoing if possible and break out of my introvert shell. hopefully by age 40 have sold my first house, and bought a 2nd. build a small library in my second home and rekindle my love for actual books that are not on my kindle or nook. (Even though my vast e-collection is well into the hundreds)
would like to meet more military type women. i find that they have more structure and maturity in life that I’m used to dealing with. But truthfully just anyone in general. People who don’t fit into society’s boxes and are free-thinkers. Folks who have been able to master the art of sarcastic remarks and are not easily offended. Professional women. Others who will enhance my life.
I don’t really have a filter on life, I don’t do drama, bullsh*t or lies. I have been known to cut people off for small reasons as I don’t do nonsense.
Jeez47: 7/14/14 8:36 pm:
Hey how are you ? Hope you have read my profile before contacting me … as friends I am ok any other interest I really think you should read my profile … let me know when you do 🙂
Truth: 7/14/14 8:56 PM:
I read your profile and while yes I’m attracted to other slightly masculine women, I assure you that I am not interested in dating anyone right now. I just moved here a few months ago and only know 4 people in this area outside of my coworkers. As my own profile states I’m just looking for new friends and nothing else.
Jeez47: 7/14/14 11:32 PM:
Letv you in on a little secret … I been in VA for almost 6 yrs and still no friends .. so having 4 you are doing far better than me … friends to hand with … That’s what I mean … btw I am not 38 but 43 … When I first sign up I put 38 to attract younger woman … I tried changing it but it won’t allow so … even better I won’t get any gran ma try ing to wink at me 🙂  … I am extremely active reason why I am more attracted to younger women .. You seem soft butch , infact more like a stud than soft … It’s very unlike for your type to be attracted to the aggressive/assertive type … Probably you have just come out … not knowing what’s your preference?
Truth: 7/15/14 5:05 AM:
I technically stopped using labels on myself 10 years ago. I’ve been out the closet for more than half my life, so I know my preference. I spent the first 8 years in this life trying to please the masses and following “societies rules” that cause I looked butch I had to date femmes, where they only annoy me and don’t do anything to we my palate. So I leave them for you all.
Jeez47: 7/15/14 6:24Â AM:
Lol … Thanks … sound as if You are either still upset at past relationships or frustrated with the fem types … For me it’s def not about society rule it’s my attraction … Part of the attraction is the physical aspect … I def not turn on by women dress like stud … Not being offensive … so what do you do?
Truth: 7/15/14Â 6:41 AM:
Nope not upset or frustrated, I just know what I like and what it am attracted to. My past is just that the past. If I dwell over it, then I’ll never get to where I want to be not will I be happy in my life. My own personal happiness means more than being miserable in any relationship. I know there are plenty in this world who can’t see past the clothes that one wears. I’ve met some of the “hardest” looking bitched that are just as femme as they wanna be once they are outside the public eye. If there is one thing I’ve learned is that I cannot take everything at face value, especially women. Some of the femmes I’ve met over the years, to include one of my best friends, may do all the femme type stuff (dress up, make up, etcetera) are a whole ‘nother species once you them behind closed doors.
My job is an accountant for the navy. I’ve got a huge report due today, so it’s where I will spend 95% of my day outside of a working lunch.
Jeez47: 7/15/14 7:33Â PM:
Question … if you see a guy dressing girlie … What is your perception of him ?
Truth: 7/15/14 8:06Â PM:
He’s a guy that dressed girlie. What he does is his business. I’m responsible for one person in this world, myself. I have no kids, don’t want any and don’t date women with them. If I worried about what other people do then I would never be able to accept the good things that come my way.
Jeez47: 7/15/14 8:24 PM:
I didn’t ask what he does .. Just his attire. See people are going to drezs according to their personalities … a woman with strong desire to show her sexual fem side regardless if she is gay or not will dress to show that sexuality … She knows men/women (gay) will just drool when they see her … that’s her personality! . She wants to desire as a femme type … regardless of her preferences … nature has shown… opposite attracts! … If you are attracted to a woman who is butch like but femme personality I guess that’s your type … However almost all my gay friends are opposite in nature … which I guess you are an exception! … Since you are attracted to your own BUTCH-LIKE type … Right ? 🙂 … You shouldn’t find it so difficult to find someone either … Since most butch like wants a woman .. or is it that most butchlike LIKE femm type … so you might just have a hard time 🙂
Truth: 7/15/14 8:51Â PM:
It’s never a hard find, but what makes it hard is finding a WOMAN who isn’t hung up on insecurities and what other people think. I have no problem dating, I chose not to right now b/c I’m focused on my career and dating complicates that. It doesn’t matter what one dresses as or how they feel on the inside. If they aren’t secure with who they are then therein lies the problem.
I’ve learned that those who fear change the most are afraid b/c if they change or accept change they will be outed in their own community hence why they follow societies norm. I’ve dated a few “butches” who were in an s4s relationship for the first time. Things were great until they allowed their childish friends to influence their choices which I for one don’t put up with.
It’s okay to be different. I am different and I feel that not being like everyone else makes me slightly better b/c I have my own personality and not this cookie-cutter image that the world wants to place on me. I do what I want not what I am told. I don’t use labels and have a strong dislike for them b/c of the unwritten laws of black lesbianism. I’m sorry that most can’t accept me for me. I am human before I am gay, before I am a masculine loving woman. I am a woman before that stuff too, and thirdly I am black before anu of that. So I have more than my fair share of the worlds problems on my shoulders before I get a chance to give a rats a*s that someone thinks I’m out of the norm for the gay lifestyle I live so openly that threatens to destroy their normality.
I dress masculine because that is what I am comfortable wearing. I wear suits and slacks and ties and vest b/c I look good in them. But on the other spectrum, I am a woman. I can rock a business suit with a frilly top if I have to and I’m okay with that. I go to business meetings and kill me with my knowledge. The only thing they are worried about is how much money I can save them not if I’m wearing boxers or panties.
Most lesbians in my opinion need to get their heads out of their asses and realize that once they stop doing what people tell them to do then they will be happy. If I had continued to do that I’d be married to a femme with a couple of kids. If I really was to please the world id be married to my high school boyfriend with a bball team floating around. But I do what I want that makes me happy. So no men, no femmes? Only masculine women b/c outside of their hard appearance most are not that way. And those who are … Let them be. I’m not on this earth to judge anyone.
Jeez47: 7/15/14 9:37Â PM:
You are forgetting something .. Unless you plan on dating yourself … “Most” butch wants a fem for the long term … the few that dates other butch (as you mentioned) is – s4s relationship … I understand 🙂 … so it’s happy hunting for someone like yourself if you do find yourself 🙂 … watch her! Guarantee! she will cheat on you for a fem 🙂 … Btw most people are very comfortable with themselves by age 30 … Most people are secured about themselves and thus dresses according to thier comfort zone … dont really think people of this age group are easily influence by society … It’s simple called a comfort zone 🙂 .. stop kidding yourself that gay women tend to dress because society say so … these are people that are also in influential or important roles I am sure there are not rebellious about what soceity made them do
Do me a favour please … tHis is a Gay site -section – do a search on all butchlike women … message back to me one that’s looking for another BUTCH … Thanks 🙂
Truth: 7/16/14 4:52 AM:
Look up vedachang she’s 25 from Richmond. Case made. This heteronomative life lesbians believe in is so over-rated. With that this conversation is dead b/c if you can’t see the fact that I was ONlY reaching out to make a new friend and the only thing you seem to be able to focus on is who I would prefer to have in my bed, then you are just as bad as str8 people. Enjoy your search
Jeez47: 7/16/14 8:23 AM:
Lol … blu You are surely different … Never met another gay person like u … interested in women with same masculine interest 🙂 … No I am not interested in who you take to bed just your preference … we were both only trying to prove points/facts …. You partially won 🙂 … Just that vedachang also is interested in femm …
You are different/an exception 🙂 so I would like to know more about you … Also you seem the intellect type … if you still have that friendship door open 🙂 … lets continue getting to know each other as friends ? 🙂
So at that point i ended communication. I can’t for the life of me even attempt to be “friends” with someone who bucks at every response to only try to tell me who i should like…yeah no. the kid ain’t having that.
